Do IT professionals fall in love at work? An interesting question on Valentine’s Day, isn’t it? We asked it to the readers of dev.ua, and collected a lot of interesting stories and a little bit of statistics. We publish the most interesting from the mini-study.
Do IT professionals fall in love at work? An interesting question on Valentine’s Day, isn’t it? We asked it to the readers of dev.ua, and collected a lot of interesting stories and a little bit of statistics. We publish the most interesting from the mini-study.
To begin with, let’s note that, according to the results of our survey, most IT companies currently have no bans on relationships between colleagues at work. That is, employers do not prohibit employees from falling in love, forming couples, and building families. And that’s great!
Interestingly, IT professionals themselves consider relationships at work to be normal practice if both parties are happy with it. However, there are certain red flags.
However, there are opponents of amorous affairs at work. “ I don’t think it’s normal, because I’ve seen it many times when things went wrong, people are different, it’s still too emotional. Plus, it’s an unnecessary informational tool for colleagues. In our case, we hid the relationship for a while. I think it helped us a lot. And our work processes don’t overlap much, so it was a little calmer. But despite this, it seems to me that if people are adequate and really strong feelings arose, then why not. But you need to soberly assess the situation,» one of the dev.ua readers who works in IT shared anonymously.
Another interesting thing: more than 80% of IT professionals surveyed admitted that they had more than once felt interest in themselves as a partner from one of their colleagues. Love is in the air is about Ukrainian IT!
Among IT workers, there are many who have happy families with colleagues. Here are some examples of their responses.
I married a colleague, we’ve been together for 8 years.
13 years married
Three children and a strong family, all while working. It wasn’t easy, but it was worth it! I’ve never regretted it.
The IT workers also shared with us vivid love stories from their working lives. Here are some of the most interesting ones.
I had a romantic correspondence with a colleague from another city. He is now in the Armed Forces of Ukraine, so, unfortunately, the communication ended on his initiative. It was very light, inspiring and tender. It’s a pity that we never met.
First there was a relationship with a system administrator (short-term romance), then after the end of this relationship I started dating a developer (back-end). We’ve been together for a year and a half, the only thing is that it’s a little annoying that the guy keeps asking questions about the projects I’ve been leading, as if I remember something a year after I quit and found a better job. Actually, yes, but it’s better for him not to know about it.
I had a mutual crush on a colleague. We struggled for a year, finally talked at a corporate party and decided that this was something real and worth the risk. We broke up with our exes, then started dating. Now we live together.
At the New Year’s corporate party in 2022, I wanted to give flowers to a female colleague with whom I had a warm conversation on the phone and talked about everything in the world. So that she wouldn’t have to be embarrassed, instead of one bouquet, I gave one flower to each employee. I went with a colleague-programmer and made a greeting card from the company. But then I whispered in her ear how it was.
But nothing worked out because I realized that we didn’t see each other as partners. I still have warm feelings for this little angel.
We met at work while working on a common task. It all started with work, then we started running together, and now we’ve been together for 2 years.
I always thought that relationships with colleagues were a disaster, and if something went wrong, it would be difficult to maintain a working relationship. But 6 years ago I worked at a company (I was new), I really liked a guy, we flirted a little, but we talked about it being a bad idea to go for coffee or a date.
About 3-4 months later, we met by chance at a concert, then a few more «random» (not so much) meetings outside the office and off we went. We got married three years ago. We’ve been together for five years now.
The only caveat is that you can’t call it a romantic acquaintance, but still. We like to say that it was love at first sight and fate. By the way, I left the company a year later, my husband still works there.
My partner and I are the second couple in the company. The first couple, who also met at work, already have a baby this year. When we started dating, we thought it would be difficult to combine a relationship with work, especially when you live together, but the main thing, as in any matter, is to discuss everything. At work, we try to do our own tasks, but in the evening we already make time for each other.
We also asked what kind of dates IT people consider ideal.
Here are 10 options that may please your beloved IT professionals, according to the polled readers of dev.ua.
